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What seems nasty, painful, evil, can become a source
of beauty, joy and strength, if faced with an open
mind. Every moment is a golden one for him who has the
vision to recognize it as such.
- Henry Miller
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Look at this box carefully.
What do you see inside?
Can you see a BLACK DOT?
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that all you see inside the box? |
If your response is yes, you can see a black dot and
that’s all you see, you are not alone. And that is sad
news.
What you focus on at work and in life largely
determines your attitude, your ability to stay
creative, how soon you can leave the past behind and
your growth in key aspects of life regardless of the
prevailing circumstances.
Since 1998, I have conducted a simple survey at many
of my presentations to illustrate the importance of
turning setbacks or change into steppingstones to a
new beginning. I pick up a white piece of paper
(either a standard 8.5 x 11 or a larger one depending
of the number of people present) and scribble a
visible dot. I then ask the audience what they can
see. The very first response, without fail, is a
black dot.
Sometimes, I have people privately write down what
they can see. The overwhelming majority, sometimes as
high as 90%, write that they can see the black dot,
and nothing else. |
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You can imagine the facial expressions and/or deep breaths taken
when I ask the audience, “How come you didn’t see the white
space surrounding the black dot?” A participant once asked,
“Were we supposed to see that, too?”
The majority of us, unfortunately, focus on the dots of our
lives. But did you know that, on average, 98% of the time good
things happen? And still, we focus on the 2% when things don’t
go our way, when natural forces or man/woman made factors change
our lives.
Speakers are likely to focus on the two negative evaluation
forms instead of the 98 positive ones. A leader can use two to
three incidents a year to deny an employee a positive evaluation
or a promotion. You can work with someone for seven years but
what you remember the most are the few moments when there were
conflicts. Married people know very well that you can spend a
day harmoniously together, maybe at the beach, but around 5:00
p.m., you say one sentence in the wrong way and that is what is
remembered.
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Focusing on the past or a negative experience is
the best way to waste energy and resources. When you focus on
the setbacks of life, you are likely to blame others, become
less creative, be more defensive, waste energy and resources and
keep yourself stuck in your mindset. When focusing on setbacks
becomes a habit, it leads to business failure, broken
relationships, failed careers and regret. |
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When you focus on the 98% of life that is good, you have a positive
attitude and accept reality with a resolve to make things better.
You see what’s working and think about involving others. You are
building an optimistic environment that fosters strong
relationships, creativity, enthusiasm and personal and professional
growth.
Every day you wake up, you have a choice to make. Are you going to
focus on the dot or on the 98% goodness of life?
Sometimes that “dot” is what helps us improve. Reward the one
unsatisfied customer who tells you his/her bad experience with your
services/products—because probably there were many others who just
kept quiet after swearing never to do business with you again.
The question then is:
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Have you focused on the few failing experiences of the past,
thus jeopardizing your ability to enjoy today and have a
better tomorrow? |
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Do you, as a leader focus on isolated employee incidents or
on the overall performance? |
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As a salesperson, are you focused on (and disappointed by)
the few potential customers who can’t close the deal with
you or on the open market that awaits your call? |
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Is your attitude negative because you focus on the lack of a
few material items or a job title instead of the many
blessings you have that millions of people wish they could
have for a day? |
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Does your day’s productivity suffer because you focus on a
single setback instead of focusing on all the other things
that are just fine? |
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As a parent, do you focus on your child’s grades only or do
you consider his or her overall performance (responsible,
respectful, trustworthy, self-initiating or team player) in
life? |
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Are your relationships turbulent because you focus on a few
situations when you were disappointed? |
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The long awaited opportunity will happen for you and your spouse on
September 23rd 2009. So prepare yourselves for one amazing day and
be ready to rejuvenate your married life. Over a decade, Dr. Vincent
Kituku has conducted marriage seminars in more states than he has
given his captivating keynotes that propelled him to international
fame.
Without ever sending a flyer or a single announcement, Dr. Kituku
has consistently been invited to strengthen marriages as well as
prepare those about to marry with his fresh and proven strategies of
building strong marriages and healthy families.
But before you continue, here is what Gary
Smalley, world renowned Author and International speaker
on family relationships said about the marriage book written by Dr.
Kituku:
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Overcoming
Buffaloes in Marriage is a fresh approach with time-tested
principles… Dr. Kituku, a native of Kenya, uses analogy after
analogy to help married couples and those preparing to marry
to make their relationship a priority. |
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You know that
today’s marriages fail because of:
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Spouses blaming each other or being
blamed for simple mistakes |
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Lukewarm or non-existent sex lives |
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Money related stress |
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Strained communication, fear of how to
talk to your spouse |
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In-laws who have cut inroads into your
relationship and how you live your married lives |
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Differences on how to raise children,
discipline, values and living with purpose |
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Work, hobbies and other extramarital
aspects that take time from each other |
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If you don’t want your marriage to be a victim of any of
the above, then Overcoming
Buffaloes in Marriage (How to Grow Together,
Build a Bond that Money and Communication Issues Can’t
Break, Maintain a Vibrant Sex Life and Raise Respectful
and Goal Oriented Children) is the marriage seminar
you need.
The fresh
easy-to-apply lessons Dr. Kituku provides with his
succinct inspirational lessons and his authentic power of
storytelling will help you learn:
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How to say, “You are special” without
giving any diamonds |
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How to respectfully communicate under
all circumstances |
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Proven practices that will your keep
sex life alive |
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Why and how to prevent money and
material possessions from becoming sources of your
marital anguish |
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To raise children who respect Dad and
Mom, are self confident and hard workers |
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How to balance work and life without
leaving your family behind |
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How to value and keep in-laws from
destroying your marriage |
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Vincent
confronts the threats to oneness in marriage, the need for
effective communication to avoid conflict, the threat of
material possessions, and satisfying sex life in marriage.
These aspects of marriage are addressed by examples of his own
life experiences in Africa and the US…These entertaining, and
at times humorous, stories have a positive impact on married
couples of any age. Troubled marriages will be revived and
good marriages enhanced when the spouses understand the basics
of love, honor and respect.
Robert Friesen |
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Dr. Kituku
will also share his sought after
7
Romantic Tips for Married Men Who Want to Be Happy and
Successful |
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Please note:
This seminar is for couples (husbands and
wives) and/or betrothed couples who are preparing to
marry. Space is limited. |
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The
first 119 couples to register invest only $69 per couple
SAVE $100!
Groups of FIVE sets of couples or more register for
$59/couple
if registered before midnight August 23rd.
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Speakers: |
Principal Speaker:
Dr. Vincent Muli Kituku, international speaker and author |
Keynote Speaker:
Patricia Kempthrone, Former first lady and founder of the
Twiga Foundation
for balancing work and life.
www.twigafoundation.org |
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WHEN: |
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September 23rd 2009 8:30am-
4:00pm |
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Where: |
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Nampa Civic Center |
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BONUS: |
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ALL attendees will receive a free workbook ($19 value) |
The first 119 couples will get a free:
Dr.
and Mrs. Kituku’s Cookbook of African Special and Common
 Recipes
… Christmases in Kangundo & What We Ate In Between ($14.99
value)
I
Stopped Raising Angels: How to Raise Children With Human
Characteristics
($20)
A
poster of the Top 45 Must Know Life Lessons for Top Achievers
($5
but priceless) |
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Your investment: |
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$69 Per Couple This offer
expires immediately after 119 couples have registered. |
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$99
Per Couple BEFORE Midnight August
23rd 2009 |
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$169
Per Couple AFTER August 23rd 2009 |
For group discounts and economic hardship scholarships
please call our office at (208) 376-8724. Lunch is not
included.
Military personnel (active or retired), please call our
office for special rates.
There is also a discounted investment for church groups. |
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Toll free
1-888-685-1621 to register by phone |
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Don’t be one of the 75-80%
professionals
who wake up and wish they didn’t have
to do a
job they dislike.
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Read how to overcome your “social buffaloes” from Dr. Kituku, who has been
called a modern day “King Solomon” for his in-depth understanding of workplace
and personal life challenges and his unequaled use of stories and proven, easy
to use strategies
to help you:
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Move
forward without leaving your life behind |
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Learn
how to set yourself apart at work and in life |
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Rediscover
talents and resources you need for growth |
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Thrive
by repeatedly providing exceptional service |
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Be
part of something bigger than a career |
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Bounce
back after setbacks |
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Overcoming Buffaloes at
Work & in Life will equip you and your organization.
Overcoming Buffaloes at Work & in Life
provides practical tools to help individuals, corporations,
public and nonprofit organizations, teams and families increase
productivity, provide exceptional customer service, and stay
motivated and focused. The fresh ideas in this book will take
you to new heights of work experiences without leaving your life
behind.
Book specifications:
ISBN: 978-1-60585-958-3
Hardcover with glossy dust jacket, 5.5 by 8.5
112 pages
Retail price:
$19.99 US
$25.99 Canada |
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Take advantage of this
month’s special.
Buy ONE book and receive the following
FREE of charge |
Overcoming Buffaloes as a Leader:
What you need to inspire productivity, focus, team spirit
and positive attitudes |
$20 |
Top 45 Must Know Lessons for Top Achievers
(a popular inspirational poster for all ages) |
$5 |
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THIS OFFER IS NOT ONLINE.
Unfortunately we have limited packages for this offer.
Expires on July 11th Midnight
or when the sets we have are gone! |
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Call toll free 1-888
685-1621 and ask for the midsummer
special offer.
All major credit cards are accepted!
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Read what
others are saying: |
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Vincent,
thanks for leaving me a signed copy of your book!...God’s
timing was perfect (again). I took that book and read it
while on a church mission trip in Mexico (building houses in
Reynosa)…and it became sort of a daily devotion and it put a
lot of things in perspective…
Jim Gilchriest
Executive News Director, KTVB News Group
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Hi
Vincent…I have almost finished reading the book, which so
far I have enjoyed and is certainly in line with the changes
we are striving to make here at Bartercard...
JUSTINE HAYEK
National Franchising Manager, Bartercard Australia Pty Ltd
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…So
you are right. The best gift is to have daddy home. Time
with family is much more important than any material things
that fathers can provide. More dads need to read Chapt. 30…I
have been trying to find a way to involve dads in the school
learning process. The NFL has a program and I have looked
into some others. Hopefully, with the encouragement you
provide in this book, I can finally get something
started…May God richly bless you in your work! Also: Could
you send me 2 more copies of the book Overcoming Buffaloes…
Rick Bollman
Principal Cynthia Mann Elementary School
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…I
was moved immediately as I read a portion of the "9 Must
Know Lessons..." booklet. I loaded the CD and listened all
the way through as I looked up your website online.
Obviously I was very affected and wanted to let you know
right away. In an effort to help others feel similarly
impressed, I wonder what your options for keynote or short
motivational seminars might be…
Teresa Schwarz
Blue Cross of Idaho
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VINCENT.
. . .LOVED THE BOOK AND WANT TO GIVE 2 COPIES AS PART OF
LEADERSHIP BOISE CLASS AND 2-MORE TO FRIENDS. CAN YOU SIGN
ONE FOR SANDI, ONE FOR LORI AND TWO FOR LEADERSHIP BOISE
CLASS OF 2009…
James G. Murray
AIA, CSHQA
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Good
afternoon Vincent…We would still like to purchase 200 books
from you to give to our delegates…
Anna Parfrey
Executive Assistant to Justine Hayek
National Franchising Manager, Bartercard Australia Pty Ltd |
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It has been said that you may be a nobody to the world,
but to somebody you are the world. To understand what to
be somebody truly means, one must experience unconditional
love in his or her most vulnerable moment. That love might
be the only thread to hold on to as the wounded soul
navigates through the tides of life to a renewed hope and
focused sense of purpose.
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One of the largely unknown aspects of building a professional
speaking/training career is that an individual must pay his
dues in the school of hard knocks. Lack of business and name
recognition is the force that demand astonishing efforts to be
devoted in getting people to know your work, hoping that
effort will lead to business opportunities. The mental and
physical challenges one has to endure in the process have
forced many dreams to be changed. Financial constraints seem
to be the axe that transforms aspiration into desperation.
My moment came in the spring of 1998. It was about one year
since I left corporate America. The dream career I was running
after seemed like a mirage. The challenges that relegate 90%
of all start-up businesses to oblivion in the first year had
infested themselves in my efforts. Two to three months would
pass easily without a single call from a possible prospect.
Forget health insurance and the luxury of paying bills on
time.
Then the flyer came. I was invited for an event in Seattle
with the potential of speaking to hundreds of thousands and
being a guest on a program on the National Public Radio. I
could not let this opportunity pass. But it was up to me to
pay for my airline travel expenses and be willing to stay with
a host family. No problem. I had done it—traveling from Boise,
Idaho to Midland, Texas to speak to a library storytelling
group and a Toastmaster’s club with no payment agreement
besides the opportunity to sell some books.
The program was unfortunately not publicized. The host, bless
their hearts, did their very best with what they had and I am
grateful for that. In a one-bedroom apartment, I had to share
the living room with four dogs that didn’t seem comfortable
with a stranger. I have no hidden dislike for dogs. But these
dogs became alert and ready to attack at the slightest
movement. I resolved not to sleep, and not to be eaten without
putting up a fight. This battle of wills between a would-be
speaker and dogs lasted for four days and nights.
The trip to the airport from those dogs brought unforgettable
comfort. With a bruised ego, four sleepless nights, a depleted
wallet and an uncertain speaking future, I was ready to throw
in the towel. My wife picked me up at the Boise airport at
noon. I had shared my situation as I gave her information
about my arrival time the previous night. She took the day off
from work and drove to my favorite restaurant. After lunch we
went to Ann Morrison Park and relaxed as we reflected on the
ebbs and flows of life. There was no discussion about unpaid
bills or a career that seemed failing.
By the end of the day, all frustrations and disappointments I
had experienced started to lose their grip. I was ready to
wake up and go back to the trenches of building a speaking
business.
Now, twelve years later, I wonder what might have happened if
after feeling like a nobody I came home and my feelings were
affirmed by words said to me or actions that reflected
negatively on my miseries? That inspiration from my
ever-supportive wife refocused my course more than any book or
seminar on, “How to be tough in difficult times” could have.
It is the special attention and sense of belonging we receive
when we have been wounded in the battles of life that become
the source of much needed hope and rekindling of our sinking
faith to carry on, just for another day. That’s what makes a
difference along the paths we have chosen to travel in life.
It is the ingredient that makes an experience a positive
memory rather than a graveyard of dreams.
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Native of Kenya, Africa, and resident of
Idaho since 1992, Vincent has been a featured speaker
and trainer at numerous Real Estate conferences and
training programs. An award winning speaker and writer,
he is one of the less than 7% of all professional
speakers to earn a CSP (Certified Speaking
Professional), the highest award for professional
speakers. Dr. Kituku has worked with championship sports
teams and trained leaders on how to inspire productivity
all the time. What sets Vincent apart is his ability to
weave life experiences in Africa with corporate America
and culture in providing solutions for personal and
professional growth. |
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Dr. Vincent Muli Wa Kituku is known as a research-based
motivational speaker. He presents motivational keynotes
and training programs on leadership, employee
motivation, overcoming buffaloes at work (change),
customer service and living and working with cultural
differences. Vincent is the founder and president of
Kituku & Associates, LLC, a business that is dedicated
to developing leaders and employees in business and in
life.
What has set Dr. Kituku apart is the ability to use his
experience in research to evaluate/assess client needs
and then tailor his keynotes/training presentation to
meet their objectives. Harold G. Delamarter,
President/CEO, Prestige Care Inc. said, "Before the
Retreat, Dr. Kituku gained as much information as
possible about our company and the industry we are
involved in. He made telephone calls to management team
members to tailor his seminar very closely to the needs
of our employees and the circumstances they face each
day in the present economy. Dr. Kituku was so widely
received in July, the decision was made to ask him to
return to again present to our company in October."
Vincent's clients list includes Cisco Systems, Micron,
Hewlett Packard, Genworth Financial, US Fish and
Wildlife, US Air Force, Women Council of Realtors and
National Association of Mental Health. He has been the
motivational speaker for the successful Boise State
Football Team since 1998. Dr. Kituku works have been
featured by numerous publications including the
Presentations Magazine, SkyWest Magazine, National
Speakers Association Magazine and many newspapers which
publish his weekly columns. Vincent holds the Certified
Speaking Professional designation that is earned by
fewer than 7% of all speakers worldwide.
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If results are important to you, then
Dr Vincent Muli Kituku is the speaker/trainer for your group.
Call
(208) 376-8724, or email Vincent directly at
Vincent@kituku.com |
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Read Dr.
Kituku’s newest articles online at:
www.kituku.com,
Idahopress.com,
Casper Star Tribune
Idahostatesman.com, Argus Observer, Business IQ, Post Register,
Idaho Catholic Register, Idaho Press Tribune, Idaho Senior Citizen
News, and Presentations Magazine.
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