You cannot tailor-make the situations in life but you can tailor-make the attitudes to fit those situations.
- Zig Ziglar

In the last chapter of Overcoming Buffaloes at Work & in Life, I share a story that illustrates the importance of attitude and how it determines everything in your life.
  In the fall of 1986, God blessed me with a situation that should have been a depressing experience. I found a human hair in my food. It was a blessing in disguise. I had been in the U.S. for less than a year when I asked a friend of mine to take me to Denver, Colorado, to look for a car for my family. We shopped way past lunchtime and about 3:00 p.m., we decided to take a break to find a restaurant. My friend took me to a place where chicken meals were sold. The good smell and the appetizing look of the food were beyond my imagination.

Chicken in Kenya, were I grew up, was very expensive and many people could hardly afford it. Now, here I was at a well-known fried chicken restaurant. I enjoyed every bite with an intensity words cannot describe. But before I cleared my plate, I noticed a person’s hair. I just wanted to put the hair aside and continue with my lunch. However, my friend saw it and immediately asked for the manager and showed him the hair in my almost finished food. The manager was so apologetic, but I couldn’t understand what was the big deal.

Then the manager said the most heartwarming words of the day, “I will give you another plate of food. We are sorry for the hair.” I was not sorry for the hair. I was thankful for it. (Now I wonder how many other times I visited a chicken restaurant and looked for another hair just to be blessed with an extra plate of chicken).

On reflection, I have thought of the many situations where we focus on trivial inconveniences and overlook the blessings that might be disguised. We complain about a rainy day at the expense of being thankful for the food that will be harvested, as a result of the rain, for our survival. We complain about our jobs instead of being thankful for our employment, especially in these times of massive downsizing. We complain about what we don’t have instead of appreciating what we do have.

Having an attitude of gratitude is a choice we make as individuals. You can choose to see the “social hairs” in your life or the extra plates of blessings you get because of the hairs. Think of the clean water or the fact you may not have to worry about your next meal or your family or your health. And don’t forget that if you are reading this article, you have been blessed with another day that many people didn’t live to see.


Every industrious man, in every lawful calling, is a useful man. And one principal reason why men are so often useless is that they neglect their own profession or calling, and divide and shift their attention among a multiplicity of objects and pursuits.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
These words bring to mind a story of a woman who purchased a talking parrot that could also sing from a pet store. A salesman convinced her to buy a fancy cage that would excite the bird to talk and sing. She took the bird and the cage home but the bird didn’t say a word or sing.

As expected, she went back to the store the following day and explained to the manager what had happened. He told her that the parrot needed a ladder to climb up and down thus excite it to talk and sing. Still, the parrot didn’t do any of that even with the ladder in its cage. The relentless woman went back to the store where she was advised to get shinny and hang them inside the cage. Talking parrots, she was informed, like attractive environments.

When the woman visited the store again, the manager could see from her face that something was seriously wrong. With a soft voice, he asked her, “The parrot hasn’t talked or sung yet?” Her reply, between tears, was, “It died.” The obviously disturbed manager asked her, “Did it say anything before it died and if it did, what did it say?”
“It asked me,” the woman said, “Is there food where you buy all these things?”

We must never ignore the basics of life in our pursuits for a better life. There is nothing wrong with driving a dependable car or sleeping on a comfortable mattress or flying first class. But those things are not the bases of true happiness, inner peace or inspiration to be a better person.

My work with thousands of people in businesses (public and private), football teams, homes and churches has led me to observe certain attributes of life that make people experience fulfillment and enjoy their profession or calling.
  1. People who find fulfillment in life are those who know their purpose--why God put them where they are. The goals they set are aligned with the big picture of the life they envision. Their efforts are focused on what matters the most. They devote resources and energy to simplifying their lives.

  2. Leaving behind past hurts, anger, and the desire for revenge is a consciously developed characteristic of people who have a purpose to live for. They know that regardless of how their past has been, their future is still stainless. They resolve to use the past as a stepping-stone not a stumbling block. They refuse to let the past hold them captive or rather they are determined not to let their past be an obstacle between them and their future.

  3. Purpose-focused people are the chief executive officers of their own lives—not their parents, teachers, bosses or peers. They dance to their own drumbeat of life. They don’t blame anyone else for their situation. They are in charge of their faith, health, relationships, financial independence, professional and personal development.

  4. Relationships are the pipes that breathe new life into a person with a purpose. A personal relationship with his/her Creator is an experience words can’t describe. An experience church or religion can only help grow but can’t give. Faith is the basis of their relationships at home and in the community.

  5. Failure, broken dreams or relationships and other adversities make purpose-focused people stronger. It’s devastating to lose a loved one. It hurts to be rejected. Being considered a failure is a disappointment many can live with. Yet purpose-focused people have learned to cry, accept their vulnerability and to not make things they cannot control personal. After reflecting on their circumstances, they find comfort and courage from relying on their God and taking action instead of languishing in self-pity.


Live teleconference: July 21st, 2011

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The best leaders…almost without exception and at every level, are master users of stories and symbols.
- Tom Peters
  • 9 key elements of inspiring productivity with stories

  • 5 must-know benefits of using metaphors for effective learning

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  • How and why to select the right story for a given situation

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  • Proven strategies to make the moral of the story effective

  • 5 styles that employees use to solve conflicts

  • 11 approaches to use stories to solve conflicts

  •  Must-know elements of using stories to turn failure into success

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You are invited to learn from Dr. Vincent Kituku, who is largely credited for bringing the African storytelling heritage into corporate America, universities and K-12 schools. As an adjunct professor at Boise State University, Dr. Kituku started a course on African Folktales. His Making Learning Effective with Storytelling course for teachers is approved for continuing education credit by Northwest Nazarene University. He has been a regularly featured presenter on how to inspire productivity with stories at the Train the Trainer Annual Training Conference since 1999 and the National Speakers Association, where he co-founded the Storytelling Professional Emphasis Group. He has trained caregivers and mental health advocates on how to use stories to heal and to have their cause be heard.
Over the years, Dr. Kituku has trained United Way volunteers and many non-profit organizations on how to use stories to create awareness and solicit support for their causes. But his major impact has been training leaders, coaches and teachers to use stories to motivate, challenge and empower workers, teams and students to believe in themselves, commit to a vision, become team players, and overcome challenges.
Dr. Kituku, a native of Kenya and a resident of Idaho since 1992, is an international speaker, author and seminar leader and the author of over 1000 published articles.
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Viliami Tuivai, the former B Viliami Tuivai, the former Boise State football coach, has joined Kituku & Associates as a motivational speaker. Coach V (his nick name) has been presenting with Dr. Vincent Kituku, his speaking coach and mentor, for several years. He left coaching early this year to spend more time with his young family. Motivating people to live up to their potential fits in with his family schedule.

Coach V is a dynamic speaker. He captivates audiences. He leaves everyone who hears him with something to make their life better” says, Vincent. A native of the Kingdom of Tonga, coach V has presented to organizations such as the J.R. Simplot Company, The Idaho Chapter of Healthcare Financial Management Association (HFMA), Arizona Fellowship of Christian Athletes and numerous colleges and schools.

His message, Characteristics That Yield Championship Results, has made a popular speaker for corporations where he address: 10 Steps for Success; The Business Life Approach; Organizational Success 40-20-40; Underdog Approach and Vision, Versatility, Victory. Chris Brazil, 2009-2010 Chapter President, Idaho HFMA, Corporate Vice President, Outreach Services, said, “By combining the intensity and passion of a football coach, and his principles of success, he will no doubt leave your attendees ready to “tackle” life’s challenges. . .”

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You kept the attention of the audience and people wanted more. I know I did. You have a wonderful story to tell and with all that you have achieved and the way you present yourself and the passion that you speak with make for a heartfelt yet on point presentation.

Debbie McDonald, Director, J.R. Simplot Company

Passionate. Innovative. Creative. Dynamic. Riveting. Engaging. These are just a few of the adjectives used to describe Coach Tuivai. But Viliami’s charisma and clarity of thought set him apart from any other speaker. Viliami Tuivai is a human expression of a power point presentation.

Brian Beltramo, Coaches Ministry Director,
Arizona Fellowship of Christian Athletes

Viliami Tuivai is one of the best, if not the best, motivational speaker I have had the pleasure of hearing in my 40 year business career! Viliami creates a unique connection to his audience with his humble yet dynamic presentation style. I’ve never seen anything quite like this before.

Randy Taylor, President Golbon,
The Food Service Operators Resource

Powerful, insightful, real world applications and foundational! Coach Vil has contagious enthusiasm and a genuine passion for his message that is apparent to all in the audience. Coach Vil delivered what I believe to be one of the most inspirational and impactful presentations we have ever received on how to achieve success. The core truths are applicable in every arena - in life, in business, and on the athletic field.

Kevin B. Rigenhagen, Managing Director,
Northwestern Mutual Financial Network



Native of Kenya, Africa, and resident of Idaho since 1992, Vincent has been a featured speaker and trainer at numerous Real Estate conferences and training programs. An award winning speaker and writer, he is one of the less than 7% of all professional speakers to earn a CSP (Certified Speaking Professional), the highest award for professional speakers. Dr. Kituku has worked with championship sports teams and trained leaders on how to inspire productivity all the time. What sets Vincent apart is his ability to weave life experiences in Africa with corporate America and culture in providing solutions for personal and professional growth.
Dr. Vincent Muli Wa Kituku is known as a research-based motivational speaker. He presents motivational keynotes and training programs on leadership, employee motivation, overcoming buffaloes at work (change), customer service and living and working with cultural differences. Vincent is the founder and president of Kituku & Associates, LLC, a business that is dedicated to developing leaders and employees in business and in life.

What has set Dr. Kituku apart is the ability to use his experience in research to evaluate/assess client needs and then tailor his keynotes/training presentation to meet their objectives. Harold G. Delamarter, President/CEO, Prestige Care Inc. said, "Before the Retreat, Dr. Kituku gained as much information as possible about our company and the industry we are involved in. He made telephone calls to management team members to tailor his seminar very closely to the needs of our employees and the circumstances they face each day in the present economy. Dr. Kituku was so widely received in July, the decision was made to ask him to return to again present to our company in October."

Vincent's clients list includes Cisco Systems, Micron, Hewlett Packard, Genworth Financial, US Fish and Wildlife, US Air Force, Women Council of Realtors and National Association of Mental Health. He has been the motivational speaker for the successful Boise State Football Team since 1998. Dr. Kituku works have been featured by numerous publications including the Presentations Magazine, SkyWest Magazine, National Speakers Association Magazine and many newspapers which publish his weekly columns. Vincent holds the Certified Speaking Professional designation that is earned by fewer than 7% of all speakers worldwide.


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