Issue Number: Volume VIIII No. 6 Publisher: Kituku & Associates
Date of Issue: June 2010.  © 2010—Overcoming Buffaloes in Our Lives. All Rights Reserved.

There are key, unbelievably overused sentences you must make efforts to consciously avoid in your communication, especially in these uncertain economic times. Check those who use these sentences frequently and chances are they are not on your list of the people you consider successful in any endeavor of life.

I call them de-motivators and dream busters or responsibility deflectors. The moment you utter any of them, you surrender your desire for immediate action and “borrow” time to wallow in self pity—which is a dangerous move that will never bring either tangible or intangible results.

You probably have said them or heard them said by other people. But recall a time when you used one of the sentences and think of your actions thereafter. Or just look at your family members or colleagues who use those sentences as you evaluate their growth in key areas of life, including professional, personal or spiritual.

Here are some key sentences to avoid and the reality about them:

  1. I am waiting for things to turn around.
    The reality is that things don’t turn themselves around. Here is a lesson learned while grazing cows in Kangundo, Kenya. If you want milk, you don’t wait for the cow, grazing some distance from where you are, to back up (reverse for King’s English speakers) for you to milk it. You get up and go where the cow is.

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  1. I would want to…(fill the blank), BUT…
    The reality is that BUT is so powerful it neutralizes the positive motive stated before it. The future largely depends on how many “BUTS” you use at the present. Take an innocent and simple sentence like, “I want to go to college,” then follow that great statement with, “but I am too old.” That BUT empowers your bones to crack and your mind to operate as if you are approaching your life’s sunset.

  2. It is not my responsibility to…(fill the blank).
    That phrase demotes its speaker from a doer to a watcher, a spectator of life who avoids participating. Check those around you. Doers are the achievers. Think about the time you went somewhere requesting help and someone said, “I do not have a solution for your situation, however, let me check around.” Even if that individual willing to do something can’t help you, you know he/she took full responsibility to act on your need.

  3. I can’t do this anymore.
    The reality is, “Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not. Unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated failures. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.” Calvin Coolidge


The path of success is governed by many motives. However, success that brings inner peace, contentment and no regrets is governed by:
The motive of true love for other people

Unwavering desire for perpetuation of life
after death

The desire to have emotional, physical
and mental harmony

Pursuit of resources to help you improve
your standards of living and help other people

The desire for self preservation and
perpetuation of your family name

The desire for personal expression
and recognition

Burning passion for freedom of mind and body

If I went back to college again, I’d concentrate on two areas: learning to write and to speak before an audience. Nothing in life is more important than the ability to communicate effectively.

Gerald R. Ford. U.S. President.


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Please take a moment and watch this NTV…

After I saw it, I emailed the NTV leaders and the reporter and requested more information and contacts for that young man. This is what I received…

“Dear Sir,

I am writing to give you details of the student who sells maize to raise money
for school.

Charles Wafula is a twenty one year old man from Bungoma. He has two brothers and two sisters. The eldest sister dropped out of school to enable him to continue with education. His follower finished high school last year and got a mean grade of A minus and still does not know of his fate since he is unable to raise money to continue with his education. The fourth born, a boy is in form two while the youngest who is a girl is in class 6.

His mother and only bread winner at the time has been suffering from ulcers hence needs constant medical attention. The father died when Charles was a young boy. Charles sat for his KCSE in 2007 and got a mean grade of B minus. He managed to finish his high school education with struggle. His brother also went through the same problem and almost missed sitting for his examinations. Fortunately the school understood his situation and let him do his examination. However, due to the Ksh.29,000 ($400) that he owes the school he has not been given his certificates leaving him in yet another dilemma.

He moved to Nairobi in 2008 to make some money and was fortunate to be employed as a construction worker. He worked for one month and there was no more work. He was paid Ksh.1300 ($17) but had to send home Ksh. 1100 ($14.67), for his mother to get medical attention.

He has been selling maize for a business woman who thought she could help him. Victoria Wavinya pays Charles Ksh.150 ($2) on a good days sale of up to maize worth Ksh.1800 ($24). Besides that he has been living with various people but the friends have families and live in one roomed house he has been forced to move out. He has been trying to get into a higher institution to no avail due to lack of funds. Even what he has been earning does not help his family as he expects…” Please Note: I converted Kenyan shillings to American dollars.

When I contacted this young man, I was moved by his burning desire for education and love for his mother. The family has no farming land. After we discussed his prospects of joining university in the fall, his question was, “Is there anything that can be done to help my mother after I leave my job?” That is his concern.

Thankfully, a friend of mine has committed to sponsor Charles’s education. We need assistance for his mother’s medical needs and food for the siblings at home.

To help, mail a check to:
Caring Hearts and Hands of Hope
Idaho United Credit Union
P.O Box 2268
Boise, ID 83701


In the spring of 1997, “The Idaho Statesman” advertised that there was a poetry reading at the Log Cabin Literary Center. I had never been to a poetry reading event or written a poem. I attended out of curiosity.

There was a table with a paper and pen at the entry of the room. The two people ahead of me wrote their names on the paper before sitting down. I followed their example. I chose to sit next to the door so that I could leave if I got bored. More people came, and only some wrote their names on the paper.

The reading started. I became fascinated listening as the participants’ engaged my soul, body and mind. After each reader, the person conducting the event called a name from the paper which I had signed and someone went to the front to read his or her poems. I became nervous as the names of people who were on the list ahead of mine were called. I couldn’t listen. I was thinking of the mistake I had made. Sure enough, my name was eventually called. I stood up with dignity, but without a poem.

I told the audience that I didn’t have a poem, but I had some folktales I learned from my mother. After two short stories, the audience was captivated. I told them one more and left the room for the night, embarrassed.

After a while, I received a phone call and the caller identified himself as the facilitator of the poetry on the night I shared my stories. He said that he was the director of The Idaho Humanities Council and they have grants to pay people with great programs like mine to do school presentations. That was the beginning of my featured presentations and school assemblies to more than 300 Idaho schools.

This event inspired me so much that I wrote my first poem on Mother’s Day. It has been printed in several books and numerous newspapers. Another piece was published by the national Library of Poetry. Two years later, I was invited and paid to read my poetry at the Log Cabin.

As humans, we want the fruit of humility (blessings) without humiliation. We know what we want, but that doesn’t mean we know what we need. Often, what we need is to make the most out of our humiliations to find blessings in confusion, panic, and other emotions.


Native of Kenya, Africa, and resident of Idaho since 1992, Vincent has been a featured speaker and trainer at numerous Real Estate conferences and training programs. An award winning speaker and writer, he is one of the less than 7% of all professional speakers to earn a CSP (Certified Speaking Professional), the highest award for professional speakers. Dr. Kituku has worked with championship sports teams and trained leaders on how to inspire productivity all the time. What sets Vincent apart is his ability to weave life experiences in Africa with corporate America and culture in providing solutions for personal and professional growth.

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