“You can’t be a monk.” He wanted to know why. Monks not only rescued him but also raised him. He wanted to do what they were doing, have the same kindness toward other people and live a simple life dedicated to prayers.

When Earnest, my friend, the most traveled man I have ever known, tells this story, you feel the sadness. It is about his museum guide in Cambodia who, at the age of five was walking with his family when a landmine killed everyone in his family save him. How he survived was a miracle that also left him without one hand. Starving from hunger and in pain, he was rescued by monks, who took him and raised him.
When he turned 18, he wanted to become a monk but was told, “You have to have two hands to pray. You can’t be a monk.” Earnest’s story takes you to Cambodia, detaches one of your hands and weights your heart when you hear you can’t pray because you don’t have two hands.

Millions of people have been so discouraged that they left what they felt called to do. Countless women have told stories of how they were discouraged from pursuing their dreams because of their gender. Race, tribe and religion have been used to discourage people from living their purpose.

Ignorance plays a major role in discouraging others to follow their dreams. When I was writing my first book, East African Folktales for all Ages, a colleague asked me how I could even think of writing such a book in Idaho where there were (and still are) few African-Americans. I sold five thousand books in less than six months.

Time and space limit what I can write about the discouragements I received because of my “Wyoming accent,” when I decided to follow my heart and help people and organizations as a professional speaker and trainer. I still appreciate my colleagues and others who saw my accent as a limitation. It wasn’t for me. I couldn’t think of any other way to live my purpose.

  1. Have a clear sense of your purpose.
    No one can doubt Mandela’s sense of purpose as he was being arrested, tortured and imprisoned for his country, or the driving force that led Mother Teresa to serve destitute children with empty futures.

  2. Never let what others see as your obstacles become obstacles to you, too.
    After he was told by his 7th grade teacher that he couldn’t
    play basketball, AlejAdro Anastasio (http://www.lifewithonehand.com), my friend and fellow speaker, born without one hand, earned three black belts in martial arts. He also rode his bicycle from Seattle to Chicago. He has trained young boys and girls in martial arts for more than ten years.

  3. Don’t harbor bitterness toward your discouragers.
    Lesson #44 of the Top 45 Lessons for Top Achievers states that, “The best revenge is to do what your critics said you couldn’t.”

  4. Seek and associate with those who believe in you
    and your purpose.

    For every discourager you face, there are many encouragers. There is someone who sees your potential and believes in you even in areas of strength that you might not be aware of.
    I recall how members of Toastmasters used to tell me that I could be a motivational speaker way before I knew that people get paid to speak.

  5. It is your calling. How you would fold your hands to pray, if that is necessary, is seen by your creator.
    He knows your heart’s desire. Follow your heart, not your discouragers.

Become a self (and other) encourager and you will minimize your chances of being discouraged.



It is not a small task to harbor thoughts of the emptiness thrust into your life when you know of human pain, feel helpless and then realize doing nothing is worse than that feeling of emptiness. It is only God’s grace that strengthens people, exposed to human suffering unknown in industrialized parts of the world, to wake up and look forward to another day.

Vickie’s story is not unfamiliar. It is why we established Caring Hearts and Hands of Hope. Our Kenyan contact’s message was, “The girl is a total orphan. She scored very well in the KCPE, getting 323 out of 500 marks. She misses school regularly due to being sent home for money to pay for the accumulated fees arrears. As a result, her performance in school has continued to decline…”

What caught our attention is Vickie’s declining performance, especially given her performance in Kenya Certificate of Primary Education (KCPE) exams. “It is a real bad situation. The girl lives with her aunt who is a prostitute. She never knows what each night will be like and whether there will be food or not,” I was told when I asked why her grades were declining.

She was attending a day school, five miles from where she and her aunt lived, if that kind of existence qualifies as living. With no lights to study at night, coupled with fear for her safety and often with little or nothing to eat, a brilliant girl’s future was marred. She was a child with an empty future.

The culture of poverty has many faces. When we established Caring Hearts and Hands of Hope, we wanted to help orphans, children of widows and those from abject poverty with high school tuition and fees. On average, tuition and fees per year are $250. Vickie’s situation called for us to search for a boarding school and transfer her immediately.

When a school was found, what happened next left me saying, “God have mercy.” You take a 14 year-old girl away from the person left behind to help her and that person does not object or even want to know where the child is being taken? But then I realized that the aunt is relieved of a “burden” brought to her without her consent.

I have raised three daughters and I am a weakling—I cry when they leave home for college at 18. Knowing they are living in a dorm is not a complete comfort for me. Some of the girls we are assisting with tuition and fees in Kenya have no one to cry to when a stranger takes them away.

Vickie was transferred to a boarding school in January. A small sacrifice gives a child hope. Without hunger, fear for her safety or worry about being sent away from school for lack tuition and fees, Vickie soon ranked number 29 of 121 students. Before we transferred her, she was 45 among 80 students. That is the miracle your contribution is performing.

Any contribution is greatly appreciated.
To assist a girl like Vickie with tuition & fees

Mail a check to:
Caring Hearts and Hands of Hope Inc, Idaho United Credit Union
P.O Box 2268, Boise, ID 83701


  • The essential qualities all successful people need to possess in
    today’s workplace

  • Recognizing and maximizing what sets you apart in your industry

  • How to ask for what you need when you need it

  • Top tips for peak performance, overcoming “Impala Syndrome”

  • How to stay motivated, focused and position yourself for success in whatever you do

  • 6 must-know ways to be abnormally normal and achieve more

  • Recognizing the high cost of life imbalance

  • Identify top 3 relationships with everlasting rewards

  • Great strategies for handling unexpected changes

  • 12 steps for turning setbacks into setups for new beginnings

It will give hope for a better future to a student who, without assistance, might have no future. 100% of the profits will go toward tuition for an orphan or child of a widow in high school. Learn more at www.caringheartsandhandsofhope.org.

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Dr. Kituku, a native of Kenya and a resident of Idaho since 1992 is an international speaker, author and seminar leader. The author of over 1000 published articles, Vincent has brought African wisdom to corporate America and public institutions. You are guaranteed to learn key strategies that you can apply to your life and experience tangible and intangible results.


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As presented in Overcoming Buffaloes at Work & in Life, the uncertainties of today’s workplace are like a jungle infested with mean-spirited buffaloes stampeding on unsuspecting villagers. Turbulence in Asia hurts computer industries in Boise, Idaho. Technological advances, less restricted international trading rules, and regional, national or international mergers, have precipitated unprecedented changes including layoffs. No one is sure of his or her source of bread for tomorrow nor are many people willing to commit their loyalty blindly to a single company. Already, we are trending on uncharted territory in the global village

How can you motivate your people, create a workplace that’s positive, team-oriented, and fosters growth and increased productivity?

  1. Include people in your vision.
    People thrive in activities in which their aspirations, hopes and resources are incorporated from the start. Peter Senge in The Fifth Discipline says people are only motivated by personal visions which usually include aspects that concern any social entity, family, community, public or private organizations.

  2.  “One finger cannot kill a lice.”
    Leaders have to walk on unfamiliar grounds with others, sooner or later. Traditional knowledge has it that it took a team to spear a buffalo. Your team must know what the buffalo (challenge, change or vision) is, who has what spear and how each team member’s contribution is part of the organization’s success. Communication, coordination, conflict and change management systems are essential for the team to overcome the buffalo, stay focused and increase productivity.

  3. Forget short-term team building programs, otherwise you will be trapped in the passion of feeding the self-esteem of the “worried few.” Build a strong community where confidence and productivity are largely influenced by a sense of belonging and acceptance for the team’s overall purpose. A community, not “self,” provides these productivity assets. In sports, teams consist of talented specialists. To win games, these specialists perform their best by working together with each other. It’s a community thing.

  4. Grow the whole person.
    Don’t separate business from body and soul. As I work with college football coaches about developing a motivation program that helps athletes win games (I have presented motivational speeches to Boise State University football since 1998), my suggestion is, develop them academically, morally and athletically. Your genuine interests in people’s growth in all areas, not just in the aspect you need today, motivates them to excel in life. They become key contributors across the board. The assurance that players can have life off the court is a key to success for many winning teams. The same principle applies in all social institutions.

  5. Take hold of the buffalo’s horn and let others take care of the kicks. Jomo Kenyatta, the late first president of Kenya, told his countrymen, “I have held the buffalo’s horn, deal with the kicks,” as Kenya freed itself from Britain’s colonial bondage. Clear, expectations and empowerment are the “horn” you, the leader, must hold and your team will follow with all it has.

  6. Train and develop your people.
    If the people you lead depend on your skills and wisdom, you will have to support them perpetually. Providing them with training and a safe work environment dissolves the uncertainty of knowledge work. It allows individuals to do their jobs.

  7. Inner peace.
    The importance of inner peace is un-discussed in modern corporate world. However, great leaders know that a peace of mind and soul gives them the stability and focus they need to undertake the difficult decisions. At the top, you find that your decisions relegate you to emotional isolation. An uncertain business environment amplifies isolation. Inner peace gives you tranquility and a place to stand so you can move your world.

  8. BONUS:
    Resilience after an experience with “buffaloes.” Because buffaloes (challenges) are part of life, you must learn to bounce back from the effects of these “buffaloes” and help those around you bounce back from their “buffaloes” as well.

  9. Character, integrity, and consistently high values will help you lead your team to success on unfamiliar ground.

In African savannas, rainfall and mosquitoes come in the same season. Challenges and opportunities are wrapped together. Today’s unfamiliar ground has its challenges and opportunities. You have nine time-tested tools that transcend generations and cultures.

Native of Kenya, Africa, and resident of Idaho since 1992, Vincent has been a featured speaker and trainer at numerous Real Estate conferences and training programs. An award winning speaker and writer, he is one of the less than 7% of all professional speakers to earn a CSP (Certified Speaking Professional), the highest award for professional speakers. Dr. Kituku has worked with championship sports teams and trained leaders on how to inspire productivity all the time. What sets Vincent apart is his ability to weave life experiences in Africa with corporate America and culture in providing solutions for personal and professional growth.
Dr. Vincent Muli Wa Kituku is known as a research-based motivational speaker. He presents motivational keynotes and training programs on leadership, employee motivation, overcoming buffaloes at work (change), customer service and living and working with cultural differences. Vincent is the founder and president of Kituku & Associates, LLC, a business that is dedicated to developing leaders and employees in business and in life.

What has set Dr. Kituku apart is the ability to use his experience in research to evaluate/assess client needs and then tailor his keynotes/training presentation to meet their objectives. Harold G. Delamarter, President/CEO, Prestige Care Inc. said, "Before the Retreat, Dr. Kituku gained as much information as possible about our company and the industry we are involved in. He made telephone calls to management team members to tailor his seminar very closely to the needs of our employees and the circumstances they face each day in the present economy. Dr. Kituku was so widely received in July, the decision was made to ask him to return to again present to our company in October."

Vincent's clients list includes Cisco Systems, Micron, Hewlett Packard, Genworth Financial, US Fish and Wildlife, US Air Force, Women Council of Realtors and National Association of Mental Health. He has been the motivational speaker for the successful Boise State Football Team since 1998. Dr. Kituku works have been featured by numerous publications including the Presentations Magazine, SkyWest Magazine, National Speakers Association Magazine and many newspapers which publish his weekly columns. Vincent holds the Certified Speaking Professional designation that is earned by fewer than 7% of all speakers worldwide.


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