I heard, “Caroline Kasiva Muli,” and watched our first child step forward and receive her certificate for a Masters degree in Organizational Leadership from Gonzaga University. Then I became a breathing mass of emotional roller coaster.
It was the same experience I went through when I watched her stand and deliver the class president’s graduation speech in front of her more than 400 classmates, teachers and a crowd of family members so huge that her high school had to use Boise State University’s Basketball Arena.

My body had reacted in the same manner when she responded to an impromptu question at a competition for Girls State (where two junior class high school girls are selected to represent their school in a weeklong leadership training). She was the first to be questioned. How she responded left me with no doubt that the judges had to search for their second representative. It turned out my feelings were not just a father’s affection for his baby girl. The judges were equally impressed.

This is the baby who changed my world. For her first birthday, I bought a talking toy (it spoke English, not Kikamba—no native toys) in Nairobi, Kenya. That act was a milestone because I, like all my childhood friends, never had manufactured toys or celebrated birthdays with parties.

Caroline, 2 years old with Dad
When I boarded an overcrowded bus to take the toy to my daughter in Kangundo I accidentally shared the joy of a new toy with many others. The pushing in the bus triggered the toy to scream. The reactions of my fellow travelers still lighten my heart. I was relieved to discover I was not the only one new to that noise.
We landed in Laramie, Wyoming, when Caroline was two and a half. After we learned to expect snow at any time in Wyoming, protecting our child from cold related miseries created its own form of discomforts. Can you imagine wearing a snow suit in July? I tell young people to forgive their parents for any mistake their parents might have made while raising them. It was their parents first time to raise them.

When I joined Toastmasters I discovered the importance of communication. I decided that is what my eight year-old daughter needed. Organizing and conducting several workshops on public speaking at her elementary school was not enough. Voice projection was essential. That was accomplished by having her speak louder than the noise made by vehicles as I stood on one side of a parking lot with her on the other side. A radio turned on to full volume served the purpose of noisy vehicles when we were driving. She eventually became a participant and leader of the National Speaker Association Youth Leadership program when she was in high school and in her first two years in college.

Caroline fell and her foot was misdiagnosed as a sprained ankle. The doctor advised me to help her try walking with the leg. A week or so later, the leg was swollen and Caroline was in excruciating pain. I sought a second opinion. The leg had been broken. Caroline cried, and I cried. Her leg has healed sufficiently, for which I am eternally grateful. I wish I could say the same thing for the hurt I suffered for helping her walk on a broken leg.
When she was 11 years old, she announced her desire to attend a well known university. I love it when someone has a goal and can share it. I called and ordered a jacket with the university’s name and a book on the school’s history. That dream made us starting talking about what it takes to be accepted in that university or Gonzaga. (Allow me to detour a bit here. Another daughter, at thirteen announced she wanted to be a sports medicine doctor. She received a doctor’s human skeleton a few years later for her birthday. Yes, we have a skeleton in my daughter’s closet).

Caroline with Mom and Dad in
Laramie, Wyoming, July 1986


As Caroline was about to turn 16, I prepared a gift that has inspired thousands of girls and young women to live up to their potential. Her gift was the For Caroline Kasiva (Sweet 16) And All Girls 16, Younger or Order: YOU ARE SPECIAL book. Part I is an inspirational approach that highlights her uniqueness and how that relates to living a life of purpose. Part II is about having an identity that is not diminished by race, gender or media misguided expectations of beauty, life traits that matter, focusing beyond obstacles, steering away from destructive habits, and guidelines for choosing friends and a husband, among others.

When Caroline left the platform with her certificate, I recalled a text message she sent me in January:

“Dad, I found the book you wrote for my 16th birthday. I have been longing for words of wisdom and encouragement as I am overcoming obstacles. Needless to say, I couldn’t have found this book at a better time. I read the book as if for the first time tonight and I am encouraged because it reminds me of where I have come from and where I am going…It is absolutely what I need. Thank you so much Dad.”

Again, I cried. Before this girl was born, I knew tears were not for a Mukamba man. She changed that, too.


After writing about my daughter, Caroline and her achievements, my heart breaks when I think of the orphan girls in Kenya who have no father and mother to encourage them. Yet, I am encouraged to know that you and I can help each of them be somebody in a special way.

We have a limited number of copies of the For Caroline Kasiva (Sweet 16) And All Girls 16, Younger or Older: YOU ARE SPECIAL book. When you purchase a copy for your daughter(s), niece(s), sister(s), cousin(s), 100% of your money will go toward tuition and fees for orphaned high school girls or those left with widowed mothers after AIDS claimed their fathers.

Book specifications:

ISBN: 0-9650780-4-3
Library of Congress Catalog Card Number 99-97666
Perfect bound cover, 5 by 8
51 pages
Retail price: $9.95
Easy to read for young women ages 11 and older

PLEASE include the name you want autographed on each copy.

Caroline sponsors Nancy, a total orphan whose parents died of HIV complications. A junior class student, she was left in the care of grandparents who are so poor that neighbors have to house her whenever she is out of school. Because Caroline’s support Nancy has been among the top five students in her class, regardless of the dim circumstances of he life, and plans to attend university.

To learn more about Caring Hearts and Hands of Hope Inc., visit www.caringheartsandhandsofhope.org

A few years ago, a single mother said, “Vincent, you will never know how much I appreciate the small book you wrote for your daughter. It provided me with tips on how to help my 15 years old develop self-confidence….

For an additional contribution of $10 for the needy girls in Kenya, you will receive, together with your book:
  • An article about the day Caroline left for college
  • My first letter to her, a few weeks after joined college
  • A letter to her in her third year
  • A Christmas gift (a letter) after her graduation
  • An article titled—A Father’s Love, A Daughter’s Wings
  • I Stopped Raising Angels to Raise Children with Human
  • Characteristics-a top requested article
Further: You will get a copy of the Top 17 Tips for Parental Growth When Raising Teenagers. Here is a sample:
  • True love is to love someone you feel like sending to Siberia. Focus on the good that may be born after your child’s turbulent years.
  • If your child happens to consider you his/her best friend in their teen years, ask yourself what you are doing wrong. At that age, it’s hard to consider a parent who tells you what you need to hear (totally different from what you want to hear), your friend.
  • Listen and understand their challenges but maintain your values.
  • Emphasize family boundaries--time to be home, respect for parents, acceptable language and other aspects.
  • You are the mother or father. Don’t be afraid to speak out about a rotten decision and/or action.

Again, remember your investment will not only benefit you or the girl or woman you care about, it also gives hope to an orphan girl in Kenya. To learn more, visit www.caringheartsandhandsofhope.org

To Order Your Book:

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  1. Self Improvement.
    If a leader is not learning new things and ways of doing things, he/she is stuck in the past. When leaders are improving, the team improves.

  2.  Self-Awareness.
    Leaders who know their personality strengths are less likely to manipulate other people. They don’t overwhelm other people with their knowledge. They inspire dreams, creativity and productive actions.

  3. Relationships matter.
    A leader who has integrity, is trustworthy and has a caring spirit is listened to. His/her people exert more effort in getting things done.

  4. Change Agent.
    A leader must champion change in developing a vision, seeking for input from others and then implementing what’s needed to bring the team and/or organization to new heights of product quality and customer service

  5. Communicator.
    An effective leader must learn to listen, speak well, conduct productive meetings, and delegate responsibilities that match the strengths of his or her people.

  6. Teach, coach and mentor others.
    Effective leaders influence others through teaching, coaching and mentoring.

  7. Target.
    A target that a leader has set determines the outcome of the team and/or organization. Lack of a clear target creates the perfect environment for hit or miss situations.

  8. Customer service instinct.
    Leaders who leave their reclining chairs in cool offices to serve a customer get it. We are in business to serve.

  9. Creativity.
    Effective leaders know that what makes teams or organizations successful today is not necessarily going to be the determining factor tomorrow. They are innovative—always searching for new cutting edge products, services and relationships.

  10. Value.
    Effective leaders make their teams know their contribution matters. They create work environments that make people feel and know they are part of a community.

  11. Problem solvers.
    The ability to solve problems, improve the morale, focus and motivation and increase other people’s productivity is an indicator of a leader with a calling.

  12. Praise and acceptance of responsibility.
    An effective leader praises his or her people, in public for their accomplishments and accepts responsibility (again in public) for their underperformance.


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If I went back to college again, I’d concentrate on two areas: learning to write and to speak before an audience. Nothing in life is more important than the ability to communicate effectively.

- Gerald R. Ford. U.S. President.
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Special Thanks to the groups that kept Dr. kituku busy in April
Apr.1 AAA Oregon-Idaho Conference at Portland, OR. Keynote: Overcoming Buffaloes as a Leader
Apr. 1 Verdi Group Annual Client Appreciation Day—Opening remarks and networking
Apr. 7 Washington Future Leaders Association Conference, Spokane WA. Keynote: Success: How to Be More than a Dreamer
Apr.14-15 Northwest Lineman College, California: Training: Living and Working With Cultural Differences
Apr. 16 Oregon Care Givers Conference, Ontario, OR, Keynote: Balancing Work & Life; Workshop: Storytelling in the Workplace
Apr. 21 Idaho Guardian and Fiduciary Association, Boise, ID. Dealing With Difficult People
Apr. 27 International Association of Administrative Professionals, Boise, ID: Overcoming Adversity: Coping Skills When Things get Tougher than Usual
Apr. 28-30 District 24 Toastmasters, Omaha, NE. Keynote, breakout sessions and promoting TM

Native of Kenya, Africa, and resident of Idaho since 1992, Vincent has been a featured speaker and trainer at numerous Real Estate conferences and training programs. An award winning speaker and writer, he is one of the less than 7% of all professional speakers to earn a CSP (Certified Speaking Professional), the highest award for professional speakers. Dr. Kituku has worked with championship sports teams and trained leaders on how to inspire productivity all the time. What sets Vincent apart is his ability to weave life experiences in Africa with corporate America and culture in providing solutions for personal and professional growth.

Dr. Vincent Muli Wa Kituku is known as a research-based motivational speaker. He presents motivational keynotes and training programs on leadership, employee motivation, overcoming buffaloes at work (change), customer service and living and working with cultural differences. Vincent is the founder and president of Kituku & Associates, LLC, a business that is dedicated to developing leaders and employees in business and in life.

What has set Dr. Kituku apart is the ability to use his experience in research to evaluate/assess client needs and then tailor his keynotes/training presentation to meet their objectives. Harold G. Delamarter, President/CEO, Prestige Care Inc. said, "Before the Retreat, Dr. Kituku gained as much information as possible about our company and the industry we are involved in. He made telephone calls to management team members to tailor his seminar very closely to the needs of our employees and the circumstances they face each day in the present economy. Dr. Kituku was so widely received in July, the decision was made to ask him to return to again present to our company in October."

Vincent's clients list includes Cisco Systems, Micron, Hewlett Packard, Genworth Financial, US Fish and Wildlife, US Air Force, Women Council of Realtors and National Association of Mental Health. He has been the motivational speaker for the successful Boise State Football Team since 1998. Dr. Kituku works have been featured by numerous publications including the Presentations Magazine, SkyWest Magazine, National Speakers Association Magazine and many newspapers which publish his weekly columns. Vincent holds the Certified Speaking Professional designation that is earned by fewer than 7% of all speakers worldwide.


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